Sunday, June 12, 2011

When To Expand Our Family?

Asleep on Daddy's Arm
Awww!!! Look at 9 day old Braden! Isn't he just so precious, don't you just wanna snuggle him up and smell in that new baby smell? Well, some days I do, some days I don't. This blog post isn't a question to my readers, it's just a post about my thoughts on the subject matter! ;) Since Braden is over 16 months now, I've been getting the question a little more often (mostly at work) of when we're going to have #2? People actually haven't been too annoying about it, which has been really nice. But of course, the second you're feeling sick, queasy or not so good, everyone automatically assumes you MUST be pregnant and there's no way it could be what I ate for dinner! Such is the life of a woman in child-bearing age!

Anywho, back to the question. The original plan from the get go is to follow in my mother-in-law's footsteps and have winter babies! (Well, except for you - Laura!) Deah is January 19, Joy is December 23, and Jay is November 23. Such a wonderful time to have a newborn as not really a heck of a lot happens for grain farmers in the winter months. So the plan to have our first baby in the winter worked! Right away, even before we had Braden, we knew we didn't want to have our children back to back....to back? We knew that if it was in God's plan, we'd definitely have 2 children...and possibly 3, but more than likely not 4. But sometimes God has other plans for us, and I always have that in mind as well. For instance, I believe my brother was "supposed" to be just a couple years younger than me, rather than almost 4. My friend Carley's daughter was going to be 3 when they got pregnant with #2 in hopes of completing their family with their 2 children...but then she found out she was pregnant with twins and all of a sudden they're a family of 5, rather than a family of 4 which was in "the plan". Braden's such an amazing, easy baby/toddler, and I can't lie...it has crossed my mind more than once to wonder if we should stray from the winter baby plan and have an after-seeding baby in June/July? Braden, I anticipate, will still be his wonderful self with obvious daily challenges of a would-be two year old, but I think I could be at the stage of being ready to have a newborn again...plus my mom would be off work. BUT I believe it's loosely in Laura's plans to be having her baby #2 around that time and with twins already in the family, it's kind of on our brains a little a lot that we might be the next to bear multiples! So having that in mind, I think we'll stick to "the plan" of Braden turning 3 before we add to our family. As in, we'll be having baby #2 ideally between November 2012 - February 2013 as Braden is turning or just turned 3. I would ideally like to have Braden potty trained (so I'm not doing cloth diaper laundry for 2) and a bit more independent, but who knows, life is full of surprises! (P.S. I am not pregnant right now, nor trying to play a trick on you, I promise!!)

So there you have it - "the plan". I wonder about this often, but certainly don't stress or worry about it, because at the end of the day it's truly His plan, not mine. :)
sarah

8 comments:

  1. I vote for a right after seeding baby so I could be completely free to help you as much as you need for 2 months! Much harder to driving back and forth weekends in the winter as I sure found out in Braden's first year!

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  2. that's okay - i was an oops lol. i'm sure if mom had planned me i would've been a winter baby too:) well if you did stray from your plan i think it'd be so fun to be pregnant together and have babies around the same time - next spring/summer. just pray that neither of us has multiples! although i don't think you guys have to worry since it's you, not jay, that would determine the twin factor. unless you have twins on your side too?

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  3. i also agree with what your mom says. and it truly is the f-ing threes(they've started early). they are SO much smarter, and faster, and mouthier at 3 than at 2! and in my experience more issues with the sleeping, etc. i totally understand wanting to wait(obviously), but it would be so fun to be pregnant together! do it! and we'd both be pregnant in Hawaii... fun! no pressure though;) i know it wasn't your intent but your blog has me excited.

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  4. they'd be in the same class..... summer birthdays are so much more fun..... easier to be up with a newborn when the sun is up all day..... cute summer maternity clothes..... cute newborn summer clothes..... don't have to have baby bundled up all the time..... no newborn at Christmas..... more time to have 3rd baby if so desired.... k i'll stop now. let me know if you still need convincing:)

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  5. and if your mom needs a break from you, she can come help me! ok i'm actually done now. actually no i'm not... easier to breast feed a newborn when you just have a tanktop on instead of a sweater! ok now i'm done.

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  6. Haha, all points noted, thanks Mom and Laura. There would only be about a 6 week window to have a June/early July baby...only 1 maybe 2 chances, so I guess we'll have to see how it all works out!

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  7. but even if you wait for your winter baby, we'll still be pregnant together, only for a few months, but still.

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  8. It's funny to read this post now, since November 2012 is exactly when you're due! So I guess it happened pretty quickly for you guys. Haha!

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