Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
-- Ephesians 4:29
So why does it feel so good to "vent"? Part of me feels that saying certain things or "venting" to certain people that I can confide in and trust is a necessary part of my sanity. I should be just doing my venting to God, but sometimes I just need the support of my husband, mom, sister-in-law on certain things, you know?
I feel that our Proverbs study has really reiterated the gossip issues again with me, and it seems the answer is right in front of me again as I scan my journal for this post:
Whoever conceals hatred with lying lips and spreads slander is a fool.
-- Proverbs 10:18
By hating another person - you become a liar or a fool. If you slander and are wrong - you are a fool. Therefore, admit your hateful feelings to God and pray He changes your heart and help you to LOVE instead of HATE.
A gossip betrays a confidence, but a trustworthy man keeps a secret.
-- Proverbs 11:13
I need to focus more on being trustworthy and showing integrity. I believe I do hold these qualities but I need to practice them always and not fall into the gossip game. I often find this is hardest at work. I work with 100% female nurses and a mix of male and female physicians. Nurses love to gossip and vent about patients. I have been much better at work on not falling into the gossip, but it is a hard conversation to avoid and I'm not 100% there yet, by any means. A nice, long maternity leave should help though!
The gossip of bad people gets them in trouble; the conversation of good people keeps them out of it.
-- Proverbs 12:13 (MSG)
Insecure or uncertain people feel the need to prove themselves. If you can control your tongue, you can control the rest of your body! Think before you act and speak. My study bible says to spend time with people you want to be like...and I can't agree more. Evil people are like poison and their thoughts and words just make me sick.
A perverse man stirs up dissension, and gossip separates close friends.
-- Proverbs 16:28
Evil people relish malicious conversation; the ears of liars itch for dirty gossip.
-- Proverbs 17:4 (MSG)
Even a fool is wise if he keeps silent, and discerning if he holds his tongue.
-- Proverbs 17:28
Gossip, gossip, gossip! See! It's all over Proverbs! How can it not be on my heart? But as my study bible states "It often takes the heat of trials for the Christian to be purified. Through trials God shows us what is in us and clears out anything that gets in the way of complete trust in Him. When tough times come your way, realize God wants us to use them to refine your faith and purify your heart. When we ridicule people....we ridicule God - He make them!"
"It is as hard not to listen to gossip, as it is to turn down delicious dessert. Just one taste of either creats a taste for more. RESIST THE RUMORS - DON'T BITE!" [also from my study bible].
Raechel put it really well on her Proverbs 17 post on the #SheReadsTruth website yesterday:
"Some of the people I respect the most are the ones who say the least. They're the ones who pause for a moment when you ask them a question before they respond."Thanks again for following me on my journey! Have you joined this wonderful community? I'd love to read your stories!